The dilemma

Mira sends a long voice note. She knows the role is a stretch, but she has been miserable in her current job and Northvale could change her life. She wants what she calls 'a letter that lands me the interview,' not lies but framed at the strongest possible angle. Daniel will read it like he reads any reference, weighing it against the other candidates' letters.

Your options

1. Tell her you will write what is accurate. The other candidates sent honest letters and Daniel needs to compare on the same level.
2. Agree to write the strongest framing she wants. She is your closest friend and this matters to her in a way no rule outweighs.
3. Tell her you would rather not be her main reference. Suggest she find someone closer to the senior PM scope and you will back her with a short supporting note.